And in SB.1.18.48 we are instructed that "the devotees of the Lord are so forbearing that even though they are defamed, cheated, cursed, disturbed, neglected or even killed, they are never inclined to avenge themselves."
We should not mistake this to be the process of cultivating tolerance.
Tolerance means that we let go of our false ego - we take shelter at Krsna's lotus feet. We see Krsna's hand in the situation - how He wants to teach us a valuable lesson. Our mood has to be: Krsna is so kind - He gives me only one drop of what I really deserve....". With such mood we will not accumulate bitter feelings within our heart, but we allow things to pass by - we don't hang on to our false ego's demands.
1) Hearing again and again about the importance of certain qualities
2) Desiring to transform and develop those qualities
3) Lamenting and regretting about our shortcomings, while internally calling
out to Krsna and begging for help
4) Endeavoring to do our very best
5) When failing to do well - at least we will now recognise it, whereas before we might not even have noticed it.
6) When failing to do well, we again lament and call out to Krsna
7) He will witness that we do endeavor and turn towards Him, and therefore He will come towards us and help.
8) And gradually there will be changes happening, and we will find ourselves in situations where we all of a sudden do the right thing, even though six months earlier we might have still done the wrong thing.
9) Understanding that only by His mercy and help we can be successful
However, when we agree to do this internal work, then we actually make advancement and receive deep purification. Our service and big achievements are a more external part of our spiritual development. Real progress is taking place deeply within our hearts, as a result of internal work.
On our way to Almvik/Sweden we stopped over in Riga/Latvia for two days. I had to go to the German Embassy to apply for a new passport, and in the evening the devotees had arranged a program in a new little preaching center. It was well attended by around 35 eager devotees. I felt inspired to visit more often in the future - the idea came up to arrange a Holy Name Retreat for the Baltic countries, and courses on spiritual culture.....
On the 13th of July we moved on to Almvik/Sweden.....
Your servant, Devaki dd